Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Nov. 5, 1850 - Oct. 30, 1919

 

To Marry Or Not To Marry? A Girl's Reverie

by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Mother says, "Be in no hurry,
Marriage oft means care and worry."

Auntie says, with manner grave,
Wife is synonym for slave.

Father asks, in tones commanding,
How does Bradstreet rate his standing?

Sister, crooning to her twins,
Sighs, With marriage care begins.

Grandma, near life's closing days,
Murmurs, Sweet are girlhood's ways.

Maud, twice widowed (sod and grass)
Looks at me and moans Alas!

They are six, and I am one,
Life for me has just begun.

They are older, calmer, wiser:
Age should aye be youth's adviser.

They must know - and yet, dear me,
When in Harry's eyes I see

All the world of love there burning --
On my six advisers turning,

I make answer, Oh, but Harry,
Is not like most men who marry.

Fate has offered me a prize,
Life with love means Paradise.

Life without it is not worth
All the foolish joys of earth.

So, in spite of all they say,
I shall name the wedding day.


Stockin'
Stocking. Throwing the stockin'; When the bride and bridegroom are put into bed, and the candle out, the former throws a stocking at random among the company, and the person whom it falls on is the next that will be married. From the Glossary for Robert Burns Works.

Source:

Poems of Ella Wheeler Wilcox
Copyright 1910
W.P. Nimmo, Hay, and Mitchell, Edinburgh